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Messed Up a Perfectly Good Bachelor Life

“It’s funny that when a man hasn’t anything in the world to worry about, he goes off and gets married.”  — Robert Frost

What the hell was I thinking?!  I was 31, single, making good money, & living in Atlanta, a city that’s been described as “happy hunting” for a single guy.  I was living the life my grandfather told me, as a small child, to live: “Why get married and try to make one woman happy … when you can stay single and make them all happy?”  Granddad would have been proud. READ MORE

“The View”, Round 2

Some of the most fun I’ve ever had in my television career was as a guest host on “The View” in March.   You get to sit next to four incredibly accomplished women, but you’re also hosting the show in front of a live studio audience of about 200 screaming women.  And, you’re being watched on TV by millions of women.  See why this might be fun for me?   So, of course, I’m excited to be heading back to guest host the show on Monday.

Sitting there as the lone man on the show is one of the coolest but also daunting things about the experience.  No matter what, you’re going to stand out just because you’re the only guy, and your perspective is going to stand out as well because it will often differ from that opinions of the women on the show, as well as the women in studio and watching at home.  What you say can get you cheered, booed, or banished.  But what you say can also be of incredible value to the audience.

I’ve discovered on the show what is also true in my personal experience:  women want to hear from guys.  I literally get calls, text messages, emails, and even tweets from female friends, colleagues, and strangers every week and sometimes everyday wanting a male perspective about something.  Often times, it’s a dating/relationship question.  Women want a male opinion, and it’s usually better received when it’s coming from a guy who’s not trying to sleep with them.

You might think that being brutally honest while surrounded by so many opinionated women would potentially be intimidating.  But, the opposite is true on “The View.”  Even if the hosts and the audience don’t agree with what I have to say, it’s an environment where I always feel like my opinion is sought after, welcomed, and appreciated.  Too bad that’s not the case at my house.

See y’all on Monday!

Taking your suggestions (Commencement speech)

700 young adults about to step out on their own into the world.  And the last words of advice they’ll get before starting their journey … are coming from ME!  These poor kids!

I’m honored to be heading back to Atlanta in May to deliver the commencement address at Clark Atlanta University.  I’ve had a relationship with the school for years, and it’s a great compliment to be asked to come back for this important assignment.  But, it’s a little scary.  This is such an important moment for these young people.  It’s their college graduation day!  This is a day they’ll remember for the rest of their lives!  But, will they remember their commencement speaker 5, 10, 20 years from now?  Will they remember the message I give?

So, help a brotha out!  I’m fielding suggestions.  What should my message be?  What do you think these 700 graduates absolutely need to know before they go out into the world!?

T. J.

Hey, Chris Brown: When you get out, let’s do dinner

The question was, “If you could have dinner with anyone, who would it be?” My answer: Chris Brown.

During a magazine interview last year, I was asked a series of get-to-know-you questions. What books are you reading? Where do you like to vacation? What’s your passion? But my answer to the dinner question prompted a puzzled looked from the interviewer. I’m a journalist, so one might assume I’d say I’d like to have dinner with a world leader, or a famed journalist, or maybe a historical figure. READ MORE