I can’t relate to the Carters’ fame, their lifestyle, or their money. Yet today, I feel more connected to Jay Z and Beyonce than ever.
By now, you know that Blue Ivy’s hair has been the subject of much, and at times nasty, public debate. Though it’s appalling how people have criticized and ridiculed the couple over their child’s hair, that’s not what has garnered my sympathy. Rather, as the father of an 18-month-old black daughter, my heart goes out to them … because there is nothing you can do with this stuff!
Sure, you can wash, condition, and style her hair all you want. But after one hour or one nap or one trip to the park, it’s over.
We have fine tooth combs. We have wide tooth combs. We have dual tooth combs. We have brushes. We have 3 different shampoos. We have 2 different leave-in conditioners. We have hair de-tangler. But we also have a “miracle de-tangler.” We have something called the “natural curl calmer.” One brand of products even calls itself the “natural family collection.” Nothing works. Pardon me, what I mean is that nothing works for long when you have a toddler!
I always want baby Sabine to look her best. I work hard to keep her hair in some kind of order when we’re out, almost to the point of compulsion. That’s just me. However, when one shoe is missing, she just picked up a knife from the restaurant table, snot is running down her nose, you’re trying to find the off button on the singing Minnie Mouse doll, and the diaper is questionable, how pretty her hair looks is the last thing on your mind!
Let others debate the greater and deeper societal implications of Blue Ivy’s hair. I see Blue Ivy and simply think, “I feel y’all.” At the end of the day, it’s a baby. Babies are supposed to be a bit of a mess. And that makes them perfect.