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My daughter’s first word: the N-word

I’ve heard plenty of smart people debating on news programs and had plenty of people I know and respect make the case for why I should curb my use of the n-word.  None of them were successful in getting me to change.  But finally, ONE person was able to get through to me:  she’s about 20 inches tall, loves Snoopy, and can’t even talk yet.

At 10 months old now, Sabine has been consuming everything I say and do from the moment she was born.  I don’t want her to pick up bad habits, whether it’s my words or behavior.  I’ve made sincere attempts in the past to stop using the n-word.  All ultimately failed.  This one has been working!

The word is no longer uttered in my home which is probably where I used the word most.  Sure, maybe it’s too bad that this (birth of a child) is what it took for me to change, but I’ve changed.  I’m personally responsible for setting an example for someone I’m molding.  (Actually, isn’t that what we’re all doing? Hmmmm …)

If I come home one day, and Sabine says, “daddy! What up, my n—-?,” I think I’d definitely qualify as a bad parent.



Agreed – would be bad Dad. However, It’s so passively & casually used that she’s bound to hear it anywhere, if not from you. And we know there’s no ill intent in your use of the word. It’s a habit. A very common habit for some. What gets me is when I hear it used by folks who I doubt identify as African-American (Arab, Latino, Asian – swear I’ve heard in the DC area). Of course, I’m looking at them sideways & nearly biting my tongue. I’m thinking, “what does that mean to u? Is it like saying “bro”?”, as it is among African-Americans who use it like a term of endearment, taking the power away from the “other” word from which it was derived. I know – double-standard, right?
Are we too far gone to apply a slap
on the wrist when the word no longer stings?


It does not matter that it took the birth of your child to force you to stop using the n-word the point is …………….you stopped. It would be nice if some of the other people in the limelight who call themselves responsible adults with children would stop also.

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