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Please, don’t wait

I got word at 2:30 a.m. that a family member had passed away.  We were the same age.  This is someone I had spent a lot of time with when we were growing up, but I hadn’t talked to him in years.   As is often the case, we had fallen out of touch as our lives and careers took us away from home and in different directions.
A death in the family is always hard.  But it’s harder when you’re left with a feeling that you didn’t do or say what you could have when you had the chance.  Sometimes, it’s as simple as calling to say, “how are you doing?”  I didn’t, and now, I’ll never get the chance.
I beg you: don’t wait.  Don’t wait to call to check on a friend.  Don’t wait to tell someone how you feel about them.  Don’t wait to call a family member you haven’t talked to in a while.  Don’t wait to tell someone ‘thank you.’  Don’t wait to forgive. Don’t wait to say you’re sorry.
Don’t wait.  You may never get the chance.

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Michael McCollum
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On that note, TJ, thank you for being someone worth sharing this with. I know what you mean. I tend to hit my contact lists with just the intent of seeing who I haven’t talked to in a while. Loss is nothing new to me, so I try to say hello and thank you often.
So, TJ…Hello…and Thank you.

Christel
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Hi TJ, May you find comfort in knowing that although you had not contacted your relative recently, deep inside , you did love him. And he most likely was proud of you and loved you too. I recently lost my beloved aunt to cancer. The pain of missing her is still unbearable at times. She was 51. It was a very difficult 18 month fight. 2 weeks before dying, she started saying goodbye, and saying how much she loved us. Our family did the best we could to keep her comfortable. I personally told her everday that I loved her and thanked her for all she did for me. But in the end, when she passed away, I still felt like I hadn’t done enough, said enough . My brother, only God can do it all. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Cherish the memories. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Be at peace in your heart, grieve, and move on. You come across as a sincere brother with a good heart.
Wishing you the very best. May God richly bless you and your lovely wife and baby. May your marriage get stronger everyday. And your love for each other sweeter by the minute.
Thank you for illustrating that Black men cannot and should never be confined to the same old negative strereotypes. It is so refreshing to see a handsome succesful brother, family oriented, intelligent, and unapologetic about his black pride, while maintaining respect for various cultures. Good for you my brother.
Une soeur Africaine qui est fiere de toi,

Thank you

Delia Stevenson
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TJr. thank you so very much for the words you’ve said. I really do appreciate them. It made my heart rejoice to know that you were thinking of him. Not only of him, but of us all. So we will keep in touch with each other from this day forward. I love you

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